Tag: Mental Load

• I’m Carrying Everything as the Default Parent

  

  *bzzz* “Please send in more clothes.” I was out when the message from daycare flashed across my screen. I was supposed to be enjoying my day off (at least that’s what my out of office said), but that didn’t actually mean I was “off.” Because when you’re the default parent, you’re never truly off. This…

  Alana Santarelli

  July 21, 2026

  Fueling Home

  Default parent, family, life, Mental Load, mental-health, Motherhood, parenting

• I’m Not Lazy, I’m Overloaded: ADHD and Being a Mom

  

  My whole life, I thought I was lazy. Turns out, I just have ADHD… and an extremely full plate. But imagine, going 20 something years looking at the world around you and feeling like you were born broken. I was the “bright kid” who just needed to “apply herself more” (if you know, you know).…

  Alana Santarelli

  April 27, 2026

  Fueling Motherhood

  ADHD, anxiety, figuring it out, health, Mental Load, mental-health, mom, Motherhood, Overloaded, Real, Survival Mode, Unfiltered, writing